Academic Pressure-Cooker Breaks Ivy League Student


>>A COLUMBIA UNIVERSITY STUDENT WAS SO FED UP WITH HER IVY LEAGUE LIFE THAT SHE DECIDED TO RUN AWAY FROM IT. TO GIVE YOU SOME CONTEXT INTO THE STORY, NAYLOR KID WHO WAS A STUDENT IN POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT FOR DOING THE STORY, WAS A STAR SCIENCE STUDENT ALL HER LIFE AND SHE GOT A LOT OF. SHE WAS SUPER HAPPY ABOUT IT. SHE STARTED GOING TO COLUMBIA AND THE PRESSURE COOKER ENVIRONMENT IS DEVASTATING AND IT IS MAKING HER MISERABLE. IN A PIECE TITLED WHY I HAD TO ESCAPE MY I GO IVY LEAGUE LIKE INTO SAPIR, KID RECOUNTED HOW THE SCHOOLS PRESSURE COOKER ENVIRONMENT LED HER TO BE INCREASINGLY AMBIVALENT ABOUT HER SCHOOLWORK. HERE’S WHAT SHE SAID. I STARTED TO TOTALLY DISCONNECT. I DELETED MY FACEBOOK PROFILE FIRST, SHUT DOWN MY PHONE AND GOT A PREPAID NUMBER, TOOK ALL OF MY MONEY OUT OF MY CHASE BANK ACCOUNT AND OPENED A NEW ONE. KID WROTE THAT SHE HAD NO PLANS TO RETURN TO SCHOOL. INSTEAD, SHE WANTS TO MAKE MUSIC AND WORK ON HER WRITING AND MODELING CAREERS. THIS IS THE QUOTE THAT REALLY SPOKE TO ME. SHE SAYS I ALWAYS TOLD MYSELF I NEEDED TO FIND GRATIFICATION THROUGH ACADEMIA, BUT NOW I WANT TO FIND IT ON MY OWN FOR THE ARTS. I FINALLY BROKE DOWN BECAUSE OF IT LIVING A LIFE I THOUGHT I SHOULD BE LIVING INSTEAD OF LIVING THE LIFE I WANT. SHE IS GETTING A LOT OF CRITICISM FOR THIS. PEOPLE ARE SAYING CRIMEA RIVER. YOU GOT INTO AN IVY LEAGUE SCHOOL AND YOU HAVE THIS PRIVILEGE AND YOU HAVE TOTALLY SQUANDERED IT. BUT I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND OR SHE IS COMING FROM. I THINK THE TYPE OF PRESSURE THAT YOU HAVE ONLY WHEN YOU ARE IN COLLEGE BUT WHEN YOU HAVE, WHEN YOU FINALLY ENTER THE JOB MARKET AND YOU IN OR YOUR CAREER BECOMES DEVASTATING TO A POINT WHERE EVEN IF YOU ARE PASSIONATE ABOUT COMING TO BEGIN WITH, IT MAKES YOU DISCONNECT FROM IT AND IT MAKES YOU KIND OF REJECT IN SOME WAYS.>>I AM NOT BUYING IT.>>I KNOW YOU ARE NOT BUYING IT, BUT I RELATE TO HER ON A LOT OF LEVELS.>>IF I AM HER PARENTS, I AM FURIOUS. WAIT A MINUTE, YOU GOT ñ I AM SUPER PROUD OF YOU, YOU GOT INTO A GOOD SCHOOL, NEGATIVE WHAT? YOU JUST SHUT DOWN WITHOUT TALKING TO ME ABOUT IT? YOU DECIDED THAT YOU ARE GOING TO TAKE ALL THE MONEY AND GO TO BROOKLYN AND LIVE WITH THE HIPSTERS AND GET INTO ART? NO, THAT REQUIRES A CONVERSATION BEFORE YOU TAKE ALL THE MONEY INTO ALL THAT STUFF.>>IT IS ALMOST AS CRAZY AS SOMEONE GRADUATING FROM COLUMBIA, GETTING A LAW DEGREE, AND THEN DECIDING ABOUT BEING A LAWYER, TALK MY HIGH-PAYING JOB, I WANT TO BE A TALKSHOW HOST.>>I DON’T KNOW WHO YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT. THAT GOES TO MY POINT, ANNA. WE HAD A CONVERSATION. ADMITTEDLY, IT WAS A ONE-SIDED CONVERSATION. THIS IS THE DIRECTION I’M GOING. BUT THERE WAS A LOT OF THANK YOU FOR HELPING ME TO GET INTO THE SCHOOLS, AND TO AFFORD THE SCHOOLS, AND ALL OF THAT, BUT YOU HAVE TO TRUST ME THAT GOING IN THIS DIRECTION IS WHAT IS BETTER FOR ME AND IT WAS AT THE END, NOT IN THE MIDDLE SO THERE WERE A LOT OF DIFFERENCES IF YOU ASK ME. HERE I AM BEING AN ASS BECAUSE I DIDN’T FEEL THAT MUCH PRESSURE AT SCHOOL AND SO MAYBE I AM HAVING TROUBLE RELATING. I DIDN’T THINK SCHOOL IS THAT BIG OF A DEAL.>>LET ME GIVE YOU A LITTLE MORE CONTEXT BECAUSE I FEEL LIKE I AM NOT REALLY DOING HER CASE JUSTICE. LET ME EXPLAIN. SHE IS OBVIOUSLY A BLACK STUDENT WHO IS GOING TO AN IVY LEAGUE SCHOOL WITH A BUNCH OF WEALTHY WHITE KIDS THAT SHE CANNOT RELATE TO. SHE WAS HER FAMILY, SHE LEAVES HER FRIENDS AND EVERYTHING SHE KNOWS IN ORDER TO GO TO SCHOOL. A LOT OF PEOPLE DO THAT, BUT HERE IS THE THING YOU ALSO INTO THIS ENVIRONMENT OF SCHOOL, SCHOOL, SCHOOL. YOU HAVE TO SUCCEED. THERE IS A TREMENDOUS AMOUNT OF ACADEMIC PRESSURE. YOU DON’T CONNECT WITH ANYONE ON CAMPUS. YOU ARE AWAY FROM EVERYONE YOU LOVE AND THE LIFE THAT YOU HAD AND SO YEAH, IT BECOMES REALLY DIFFICULT. HERE IS ANOTHER THING. I ADMIRE THE FACT THAT SHE REALIZED ENGINEERING AND WHAT I AM DOING RIGHT NOW IS SCIENCE AT THIS IVY LEAGUE SCHOOL IS NOT WHAT APPEALS TO ME. I LOVE THE ARTS. THAT’S WHAT I REALLY WANT TO DO, BUT I’VE BEEN LYING TO MYSELF TO APPEASE EVERYONE ELSE AROUND ME. I DON’T LIKE THE WAY SHE WENT ABOUT IT IN THAT SHE RAN AWAY AND SHE DIDN’T TELL HER MOM WHAT HAPPENED OR WHAT SHE WAS GOING THROUGH THAT YOU NEED AN OPEN LINE OF COMMUNICATION, AGREE WITH YOU ON THAT. IT ALSO TAKE BALLS FOR TO DO WHAT SHE DID. SOME PEOPLE SEE IT AS SHE DROPPED OUT OF SCHOOL, SHE’S A LOSER. IT TAKES BALLS TO BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF ABOUT WHAT YOU ACTUALLY WANT TO LOVE AND WANT TO DO.>>YOU GONE ALONG WHEN CONVINCING ME THAT SHE CERTAINLY HAD A LOT OF COURAGE IN TAKING THE UNTROUBLED PATH. I CAN RELATE TO THAT AND I CAN APPRECIATE THAT AND YES, I JUST HAVE NEVER BEEN THAT PERSON SO I AM HAVING TROUBLE EMPATHIZING. I REMEMBER MY UNCLE YELLED AT ME TO NOT GO TO PEN. I WENT TO COLUMBIA FOR LAW SCHOOL AND CONFRONT HER GRANT. HE SAID THEY WILL EAT YOU ALIVE. YOU CANNOT GO, GO TO A LESS SCHOOL. LES SCHOOL. THEY ARE TOO SMART. SO I AM A DUMMY? YOU CAN MAKE THE ARGUMENT THAT WAS A MINORITY OF SOME SORT, AND BY THE WAY, MY REMAIN A LOT OF THE KIDS THERE HAD GONE TO REALLY ELITE PRIVATE SCHOOLS. I WENT TO A PUBLIC SCHOOL. I REMEMBER AFTER THE FIRST SEMESTER WHATEVER THINKING, THIS IS WITH THE PRIVATE SCHOOLS PRODUCE, PLEASE. I AM A DIFFERENT GUY. I AM NOT HER. WHEN MY UNCLE TELLS ME THAT I THINK, BRING IT. THAT IS WHY HAVE THE DISCONNECT FROM HER, BUT YES, STEPPING INTO HER SHOES WHICH IS WHAT WE ARE SUPPOSED TO DO ON THE SHOW, I JUST WISH SHE HAD TALKED IT THROUGH MORE BUT THEN, GIVEN THAT HER PARENTS ARE PROBABLY SUPER SUPPORTIVE AND THAT’S HOW SHE WAS ABLE TO HAVE THE OPPORTUNITY TO GET TO COLUMBIA, MY GUESS IS THAT THEY WILL HAVE HER BACK BUT YOU HAVE TO TRUST THEM ENOUGH TO HAVE THAT CONVERSATION AND JUST PULLING THE CHUTE IS NOT CONSTRUCTIVE WAY OF DOING IT ALTHOUGH, DON’T GET ME WRONG, A LOT OF PEOPLE DON’T OUT FROM SCHOOL INCLUDING BILL GATES, MATT DAMON, SUCKER BERG, THEY ALL DROPPED OUT OF HARVARD AND THEY ARE ALL OKAY. SOMETIMES A UNIQUE SITUATION IT DOES MAKE SENSE, BUT I REALLY THINK IT THROUGH BECAUSE YOU MIGHT NOT BE BE BILL GATES.

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